1. You need to know a marriage can survive garlic breath, snoring, financial collapse, perhaps even infidelity. But it can’t survive without forgiveness.
2. You need to know marriage isn’t built on how you handle the easy moments, but how you get through the difficult ones.
3. You need to know you’ll find it easier to forgive a serial killer than your wife for saying something hurtful.
4. You need to know silence, moodiness, and sulking are evidence you’re holding on to the problem.
5. You need to know you don’t have to wait until the other person apologizes first. Just say, “I’m sorry.”
6. You need to know that forgiveness and peacemaking and problem solving are three of your primary responsibilities. And three keys to a successful marriage.
7. You need to know you can work to forgive someone right after a fight, or you can wait twenty-four hours to sulk about it and get steamed all over again.
8.You need to know forgiving someone isn’t going to necessarily make that person change. But it will change you.
9. You need to know to not take personally your partner’s inconsideration.
10. You need to know marriage is not always 50/50.
11. You need to know that those cute little quirks of his that caused you to fall in love with him may set your teeth on edge five years later.
12. You need to know forgiving your partner can lead to lower blood pressure, a lower heart rate, less depression, and more fun on Friday night.
13. You need to know forgiveness of your spouse is key to having your own faults forgiven. Look it up.
14. You need to know to ask God to help you see the problem through your spouse’s eyes.
15. You need to know sometimes you’re going to have to forgive your spouse even though he hasn’t asked for it.
16. You need to know forgiveness doesn’t excuse the other person’s words or behavior. Forgiveness
just allows you to move on.
17. You need to know you’ll sometimes wonder who the lunatic is in your spouse’s body. The trick is realizing the woman you married is in there . . . somewhere.
18. You need to know forgiveness oftentimes takes work: journaling, prayer, talking to someone, studying the Bible. If it was easy there would be no divorce.
19. You need to know it’s perfectly OK to tell God that forgiveness isn’t in your DNA so you need His help.
20. You need to know forgiveness has occurred when you’re not churning inside anymore.
21. You need to know to not keep score.
22. You need to know that, in a strong marriage, forgiveness is a daily occurrence.
23. You need to know the only way to not stay hurt or angry is to forgive.
24. You need to know that if prayer alone doesn’t help you forgive, maybe a therapist can.
25. You need to know few apologies are perfect. Don’t dwell on how your spouse could have done better.
26. You need to know to get over it.
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