1. You need to know the relationship with your children can never be more important than your marriage.
2. You need to know expertssuggest waiting a year or two before having kids so the two of you can grow in your relationship.
3. You need to know havingchildren is actually more life changing than getting married.
4. You need to know she’ll want to have a deep meaningful discussion about whether Brook is a boy’s name or a girl’s name.With about two minutes to go in a tight game.
5. You need to know a child won’t save your marriage. That’s a lot of responsibility to put on a three-month-old.
6. You need to know that even if hedresses the kids for school, packs the lunchboxes, and writes the thank-you notes, she will always feel like she’s the one being judged by the world.
7. You need to know fathers need to take parental leave as much as moms do.
21 WAYS TO MARRIAGE AND INTIMACY
1. You need to know being married means you have somebody to tell your secrets to.
2. You need to know you’rethe one person in the world they trust to not hurt them.
3. You need to know praying togethercan be more intimate than sex. And just as important for a healthy marriage.
4. You need to know there arefive kinds of intimacy: physical, emotional, mental, social, and the easiest and quickest, the physical.
5. You need to know to hold handslike teenagers do. In the movies, walking down the street, in restaurants.
6. You need to know sometimes you’rethe strong one. Sometimes not.
7. You need to know that dreamingabout the future together is one of the real joys of marriage. He may dream about a monster pickup truck; she may dream about shutters. Enjoy the dreams.
2. You need to know you’rethe one person in the world they trust to not hurt them.
3. You need to know praying togethercan be more intimate than sex. And just as important for a healthy marriage.
4. You need to know there arefive kinds of intimacy: physical, emotional, mental, social, and the easiest and quickest, the physical.
5. You need to know to hold handslike teenagers do. In the movies, walking down the street, in restaurants.
6. You need to know sometimes you’rethe strong one. Sometimes not.
7. You need to know that dreamingabout the future together is one of the real joys of marriage. He may dream about a monster pickup truck; she may dream about shutters. Enjoy the dreams.
26 WAYS TO MARRIAGE AND CAREERS
1. You need to know your marriage and career will compete for your attention.
2. You need to know to get your priorities in order: God. Family. Then work.
3. You need to know you could spend less than fifteen minutes a day talking to each other. If that happens, one day you won’t recognize each other.
4. You need to know that your spouse will play a big role in your success at work.
5. You need to know to pay as much attention to your marriage as you do to your career.
6. You need to know to not make work your life. Some of the most successful business people in the world are working on their third marriage.
7 You need to know to not make anyone feel guilty for going to work.
2. You need to know to get your priorities in order: God. Family. Then work.
3. You need to know you could spend less than fifteen minutes a day talking to each other. If that happens, one day you won’t recognize each other.
4. You need to know that your spouse will play a big role in your success at work.
5. You need to know to pay as much attention to your marriage as you do to your career.
6. You need to know to not make work your life. Some of the most successful business people in the world are working on their third marriage.
7 You need to know to not make anyone feel guilty for going to work.
56 WAYS TO WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE
1. You need to know these stats:
25% of marriages have to deal
with alcoholism
22% with drug addiction
28% with infidelity
40% with financial crisis
100% with each other.
2. You need to know to act like you enjoy what your spouse likes. She may love watching the stars at night while you’re bored to tears. Still, you watch.
3. You need to know that if you concentrate on what’s good and right and wonderful about your marriage,
soon that’s all you’ll be able to see.
4. You need to know shared sacrifice— like tithing or community service—makes a marriage stronger.
5. You need to know your happiness can’t rest on what your spouse thinks of you this very moment.
6. You need to know God hasn’t assigned you to try and control your spouse’s thoughts. It’s futile to try.
25% of marriages have to deal
with alcoholism
22% with drug addiction
28% with infidelity
40% with financial crisis
100% with each other.
2. You need to know to act like you enjoy what your spouse likes. She may love watching the stars at night while you’re bored to tears. Still, you watch.
3. You need to know that if you concentrate on what’s good and right and wonderful about your marriage,
soon that’s all you’ll be able to see.
4. You need to know shared sacrifice— like tithing or community service—makes a marriage stronger.
5. You need to know your happiness can’t rest on what your spouse thinks of you this very moment.
6. You need to know God hasn’t assigned you to try and control your spouse’s thoughts. It’s futile to try.
26 WAYS TO MARRIAGE AND FORGIVENESS
1. You need to know a marriage can survive garlic breath, snoring, financial collapse, perhaps even infidelity. But it can’t survive without forgiveness.
2. You need to know marriage isn’t built on how you handle the easy moments, but how you get through the difficult ones.
3. You need to know you’ll find it easier to forgive a serial killer than your wife for saying something hurtful.
4. You need to know silence, moodiness, and sulking are evidence you’re holding on to the problem.
5. You need to know you don’t have to wait until the other person apologizes first. Just say, “I’m sorry.”
6. You need to know that forgiveness and peacemaking and problem solving are three of your primary responsibilities. And three keys to a successful marriage.
7. You need to know you can work to forgive someone right after a fight, or you can wait twenty-four hours to sulk about it and get steamed all over again.
2. You need to know marriage isn’t built on how you handle the easy moments, but how you get through the difficult ones.
3. You need to know you’ll find it easier to forgive a serial killer than your wife for saying something hurtful.
4. You need to know silence, moodiness, and sulking are evidence you’re holding on to the problem.
5. You need to know you don’t have to wait until the other person apologizes first. Just say, “I’m sorry.”
6. You need to know that forgiveness and peacemaking and problem solving are three of your primary responsibilities. And three keys to a successful marriage.
7. You need to know you can work to forgive someone right after a fight, or you can wait twenty-four hours to sulk about it and get steamed all over again.
52 WAYS TO MARRIAGE FIGTHS
1. You need to know that when you’re married, there’s a lot more to disagree about than when you were just dating.
2. You need to know expressing anger and disagreement in a positive way can make a marriage stronger.
3. You need to know the quickest way to start a fight is to start comparing each other to other people.
4. You need to know to not throw around the “D” word. Used often enough, everyone could start believing it’s a possibility.
5. You need to know marital discord is one of the leading causes of human suffering.
6. You need to know fighting with each other can make you nuts. Relationship difficulties are one of the most common reasons people seek psychological services.
7. You need to know that instead of trying to win an argument, the best thing to do is let everyone cool off. Put it on hold a few hours or days. See if the issue is still there when you come back.
2. You need to know expressing anger and disagreement in a positive way can make a marriage stronger.
3. You need to know the quickest way to start a fight is to start comparing each other to other people.
4. You need to know to not throw around the “D” word. Used often enough, everyone could start believing it’s a possibility.
5. You need to know marital discord is one of the leading causes of human suffering.
6. You need to know fighting with each other can make you nuts. Relationship difficulties are one of the most common reasons people seek psychological services.
7. You need to know that instead of trying to win an argument, the best thing to do is let everyone cool off. Put it on hold a few hours or days. See if the issue is still there when you come back.
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