Is hanging on to beliefs that aren’t supported by science really that bad?

In short, yes! Clearing out those dusty old cobwebs and misconceptions about relationships makes dating so much easier. By learning what relationship research tells us about how men and women relate, behave, and think, you can approach dating and relationships with fresh, unbiased knowledge.

This is important because when you stop buying into the myths, you’ll have more realistic expectations. You’ll be able to see potential partners for who they really are—rather than who you thought they were going to be. You’ll be less frustrated and more likely to find a partner who’s a “good fit” for you. And you can stop being swayed by what other people tell you romance is supposed to feel like, or how you’ve found it to be in your past relationships.


FORGET EVERYTHING YOU THOUGHT you knew about dating, divorced singles, and post-divorce life. This chapter is all about how to change your beliefs. In this step, I’ll reveal the eight most surprising myths about dating, relationships, and the opposite sex from my long-term EYM study and other leading research studies on dating and divorce— information that will completely change how you view relationships from this moment on.

For example, did you know that at the beginning of a relationship, your brain makes it nearly impossible for you to see your partner’s faults (even though you’ve heard that first impressions are always right)? Or that men, not women, are more likely to fall in love with someone who doesn’t love them back? In this chapter, I’ll dispel and debunk relationship myths with science and facts you’ll be able to use whether you’re out in the dating world or in a new relationship. You’ll see that simply shedding your old beliefs—and your expectations about how a relationship should be—is the first step to finding that special someone and forming a healthy and long-lasting relationship.