36 WAYS OF MARRIAGE AND SEX

1. You need to know men and women think differently about sex. To begin with, he’s usually thinking about it.

2. You need to know to invite God into the bedroom. Hey, the whole thing is His idea.

3. You need to know sex between a husband and wife is sacred.

4 You need to know sex was created by God as a gift for married couples.

5. You need to know you were designed to desire your spouse.

6. You need to know that in a loving marriage, sex is like icing on the cake. The cake, however, is made up of love and faith and kindness and patience and respect.

7. You need to know if sex stops in a marriage, the marriage itself is not far behind.

8. You need to know giving your body to your spouse is a spiritual act. An offering of yourself.

9. You need to know how to talk about sex without ego, emotion, or embarrassment.


10. You need to know it’s easy to give your body to your spouse in your 20s when you look great. But it’s just as important to do so in your 60s, even when you’re not sure how you measure up.

11. You need to know to agree on what the bedroom is for. Is it a place to watch TV or a place to make love and go to sleep?

12. You need to know good sex includes the talking and laughing afterward. Don’t just roll over and pass out.

13. You need to know the odds are overwhelming that you’ll have some sexual problems at some point in your relationship. But there’s nothing that can’t be worked through.

14. You need to know you can choose to be a generous, enthusiastic, kind lover or a selfish, reluctant, demanding one. Guess who has the happier marriage?

15. You need to know being able to talk about sex is as important as actually doing it.

16. You need to know criticism is not an aphrodisiac.

17. You need to know greater intimacy leads to better sex.

18. You need to know that scheduling sex is a good way to end struggles over it. If everyone knows it’s Tuesday and Saturday, the person with the lower sex drive isn’t always saying “no” and the partner with
the higher sex drive isn’t always getting shot down. Romance ensues.

19. You need to know no one is born a good lover.We have to be taught. By our spouse.

20. You need to know if there’s a problem in your sex life, there’s usually a problem somewhere else.

21. You need to know married couples have better sex lives than couples who aren’t married. Except for single people on TV and in the movies.

22. You need to know even the best marriages have roadblocks to good sex. Like teenagers.

23. You need to know the woman who wants satin lingerie in her twenties will want cotton flannel pj’s in her forties. And will wear a sweater coat to bed in her fifties.

24. You need to know passion for your spouse can light up passion for all kinds of things in life.

25. You need to know to make sex a form of prayer. You’re thanking God for the gift of your spouse and their love for you.

26. You need to know an exciting, fulfilling sex life means being willing to try new things as well as sacrificing your needs to your partner's.

27. You need to know to show each other affection throughout the day. Not just in the bedroom in the evening.

28. You need to know that if you wait until you’re in the mood, the other person could be asleep.

29. You need to know that if a two-yearold has been throwing up on her, she’s been sitting in the carpool lane for an hour without air conditioning, she rushed to put dinner on the table, and she just had a fight with her mom . . . this might be a bad time to try and get something started.

30. You need to know your spouse might really have a headache.

31. You need to know the only thing kids will do for your love life is ruin it. It’s God’s way of holding down the population.

32. You need to know to start earlier as you get older. Even the most passionate couples are generally passed out by 10:30 p.m.

33. You need to know if you’re a kind and considerate lover, you don’t have to worry about your performance.

34. You need to know your spouse’s likes and fears. Nobody needs to be surprised in the bedroom.

35. You need to know that, contrary to popular myth, sex gets better the longer you’re married. (Fifty years from now you could shock your grandkids.)

36. You need to know that if you don’t hold and touch and show affection throughout the day, your sex life will be miserable.