WHAT ARE THE WEDDING SUPERSTITIONS YOU NEED TO KNOW

On the route to the wedding, there were several dangers. It was bad luck to see pigs, lizards, or attend funerals, according to belief. In addition, it was unfortunate for the bride to look in a mirror once she began her journey to the wedding; yet, it was auspicious if she did so first. Rural brides hated hearing a cock crow on the morning of their wedding, as is said in an old saying, "Happy is the bride the sun shines on, Blessed is the corpse the rain falls on."

In addition to the chimney sweep, which may be connected to the idea that soot and ashes are symbolic of fertility, the bride was lucky to run across clergymen, physicians, blind men, lambs, spiders, and toads.

Almost as many superstitions accompany the journey from the wedding. Confetti raining on newlyweds has its roots in paganism, when grains, particularly maize, were tossed for fertility. As a couple departs a church in that nation, they are showered with sweets, which is referred to as "confetti" in Italian.

WHAT ARE THE WEDDING TRADITIONS YOU SHOULDN'T MISS

ANCIENT TRADITIONS

In Anglo-Saxon times, marriage was sometimes little more than a kidnap, with a man carrying off his chosen bride, whether she was willing or not. In the Middle Ages, girls were seen as their father’s
property and prospective husbands had to prove themselves by offering gifts or working for the girl’s hand in marriage. An extreme example of this can be seen in the betrothal of Mary Queen of Scots
to Francis the Dauphin of France. Their marriage was agreed by the Scottish Parliament in 1548 on condition that the King of France defend Scotland as if it were his own kingdom while still respecting
Scotland’s independence. At the time Mary was six years old and the young Dauphin only four.
The tradition of brides standing on the left during the marriage vows also dates from more violent days gone by. This meant the bridegroom could hold his new wife with his left hand, leaving his
sword hand free to fight any rivals.


WEDDINGS THE DOWRY
The practice of the bride’s parents paying for the wedding dates from around three centuries ago, when wealthy families would pay an eligible suitor a dowry. This was also seen as an insurance against divorce, as the man could keep the dowry, whether property or money, only if the couple remained married.

WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO MARRY

Couples have been getting married for thousands of years, and many traditions associated with the ceremony began as ancient rituals to bless the marriage with fortune and children and to guard against evil. In the Middle Ages, marriage was regarded as so sacred and life-affirming that weddings were sometimes held in graveyards because it was believed that the ceremony could guard even against plagues.

Nowadays there tend to be far more practical, imaginative or simply romantic reasons for choosing a certain time, place or style of ceremony. The inevitable pressures of modern-day living and the expectations of family and friends also play their part in influencing the way the happy couple plan their wedding.

Taking a look at ancient traditions and superstitions, however, helps to explain some of today’s accepted practices, and when it comes to thinking of what style your wedding might take,
looking to the past might even provide some inspiration to let your imagination run free.

WHEN TO MARRY

The choice of date for a wedding was very important. In ancient Rome May was thought unlucky because this was the month for remembering the dead and for the festival of the goddess of
chastity, while June was said to guarantee happiness because the month was named after Juno, the goddess of love and marriage.

TOP 5 YOU NEED TO PREPARE ON FOR YOUR WEDDING

1. MONEY

Money is a tough topic in any setting, but in an engagement, things can heat up pretty quickly. While  he  may want to go all-out on the DJ or the open bar,  you  may want to bend the budget for the dress and flowers. Or, it could be that one person feels their family is contributing more than the other, so their opinion should trump any opposition.

Whatever the sticky situation may be, the important thing to keep in mind is that you are a team. Make sure you're on the same page when it comes to how you want to spend "your" money as a couple. This means you'll have to talk about it in a respectful, humble, loving way - as adults.

While you're at it, get all your financial skeletons out of the closet. Are you a big spender or a diligent saver? Do you have any debts, whether for credit cards, school loans, etc.? Do you want a joint bank account after you're married? The more you straighten out now, the better.

BUILDING A LASTING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

Ah, engaged life. Fancy parties in your honor, a legitimate excuse to plunk down thousands for one dress. You never expected the downside: hissing at each other in bridal registry departments, screaming matches over the wedding guest list. The engagement period can be a minefield of hot topics that can trigger huge blowouts -- sometimes a seating plan is not just a seating plan.

"Planning the wedding is a trial run for your future marriage. The things you battle about now are clues to where you're going to have trouble in the future," says Tina B. Tessina, psychotherapist and author of True Partners: A Workbook for Building a Lasting Intimate Relationship. Here's what lies behind the most common prewedding blowouts -- and how to resolve them.

Family
"His family's guest list is getting longer and longer every day, and they're not even chipping in for the wedding."
Tessina warns that this particular argument is "a prototype for future financial dealings." Her advice: Be businesslike. Say to your beloved groom, "This is what your family's guest list will cost, this is what my family's guest list will cost. What can we do to limit the cost? Will your family chip in?"

Dr. Patrick Gannon is a licensed psychologist in private practice and the co-creator (along with his wife, Dr. Michelle Gannon, also a licensed psychologist) of Marriage Prep 101, a course designed for engaged couples. He suggests that there may be more here than meets the eye. "Always be on the lookout for conflicts like these to be about 'hidden issues.' Are either of you sensitive about issues of fairness or balance? Does one of you have a greater sense of obligation to your parents that the wedding be a certain way?"

HOW TO SET A WEDDING BUDGET. TOP FIVE SIMPLE STEP

1. List of guest.
It is best to know first the number of guest before choosing the venue. Make a list of guest you want to be with on your special day. In having certain number it is easier to find a venue for your reception. Make sure to find a venue who has a wedding package. In this case, they will have compliments and freebies for you wedding like the cocktails or the wedding car, etc.

2. Cash on hand segregation
The budget is all about proper accounting. Start with the details like wedding gown, invitation, flowers, photographer, food, venue. You have to decide what is your goal, whether you want a good food, spacious, accessible or something else. You can ask for a taste test to know if the food is good or observe when they have wedding in the venue. Having to witness an actual wedding will help you decide too.

3. Wedding flowers
Sometimes, brides are splurging on their wedding bouquet. Let the floral arrangement in charge of the reception to do your bouquets and pick the flowers that are in season. It will help you save on money and lesser problem to think of.

4. Check your credit
Since a wedding is expected to have higher cost take advantage of your credit card rewards. The more you spent the more points you earn. You may convert it to miles for your honeymoon or have some appliances for your new house.


5. Do the RSVP
Follow up your guest if they can coming on your wedding. Say no if they asked for a plus one guest. Be firm to all. Remember it is okay to say no and do some white lies like your parents and soon to be in laws invited many friends and relatives. It is your wedding, and you have the right. They will eventually understand. Mostly married friends will understand because they've been there and with the single friends will understand it later when their time comes. Lol!






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