WHAT ARE THE WEDDING SUPERSTITIONS YOU NEED TO KNOW

On the route to the wedding, there were several dangers. It was bad luck to see pigs, lizards, or attend funerals, according to belief. In addition, it was unfortunate for the bride to look in a mirror once she began her journey to the wedding; yet, it was auspicious if she did so first. Rural brides hated hearing a cock crow on the morning of their wedding, as is said in an old saying, "Happy is the bride the sun shines on, Blessed is the corpse the rain falls on."

In addition to the chimney sweep, which may be connected to the idea that soot and ashes are symbolic of fertility, the bride was lucky to run across clergymen, physicians, blind men, lambs, spiders, and toads.

Almost as many superstitions accompany the journey from the wedding. Confetti raining on newlyweds has its roots in paganism, when grains, particularly maize, were tossed for fertility. As a couple departs a church in that nation, they are showered with sweets, which is referred to as "confetti" in Italian.

WHAT ARE THE WEDDING TRADITIONS YOU SHOULDN'T MISS

ANCIENT TRADITIONS

In Anglo-Saxon times, marriage was sometimes little more than a kidnap, with a man carrying off his chosen bride, whether she was willing or not. In the Middle Ages, girls were seen as their father’s
property and prospective husbands had to prove themselves by offering gifts or working for the girl’s hand in marriage. An extreme example of this can be seen in the betrothal of Mary Queen of Scots
to Francis the Dauphin of France. Their marriage was agreed by the Scottish Parliament in 1548 on condition that the King of France defend Scotland as if it were his own kingdom while still respecting
Scotland’s independence. At the time Mary was six years old and the young Dauphin only four.
The tradition of brides standing on the left during the marriage vows also dates from more violent days gone by. This meant the bridegroom could hold his new wife with his left hand, leaving his
sword hand free to fight any rivals.


WEDDINGS THE DOWRY
The practice of the bride’s parents paying for the wedding dates from around three centuries ago, when wealthy families would pay an eligible suitor a dowry. This was also seen as an insurance against divorce, as the man could keep the dowry, whether property or money, only if the couple remained married.

WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO MARRY

Couples have been getting married for thousands of years, and many traditions associated with the ceremony began as ancient rituals to bless the marriage with fortune and children and to guard against evil. In the Middle Ages, marriage was regarded as so sacred and life-affirming that weddings were sometimes held in graveyards because it was believed that the ceremony could guard even against plagues.

Nowadays there tend to be far more practical, imaginative or simply romantic reasons for choosing a certain time, place or style of ceremony. The inevitable pressures of modern-day living and the expectations of family and friends also play their part in influencing the way the happy couple plan their wedding.

Taking a look at ancient traditions and superstitions, however, helps to explain some of today’s accepted practices, and when it comes to thinking of what style your wedding might take,
looking to the past might even provide some inspiration to let your imagination run free.

WHEN TO MARRY

The choice of date for a wedding was very important. In ancient Rome May was thought unlucky because this was the month for remembering the dead and for the festival of the goddess of
chastity, while June was said to guarantee happiness because the month was named after Juno, the goddess of love and marriage.

TOP 5 YOU NEED TO PREPARE ON FOR YOUR WEDDING

1. MONEY

Money is a tough topic in any setting, but in an engagement, things can heat up pretty quickly. While  he  may want to go all-out on the DJ or the open bar,  you  may want to bend the budget for the dress and flowers. Or, it could be that one person feels their family is contributing more than the other, so their opinion should trump any opposition.

Whatever the sticky situation may be, the important thing to keep in mind is that you are a team. Make sure you're on the same page when it comes to how you want to spend "your" money as a couple. This means you'll have to talk about it in a respectful, humble, loving way - as adults.

While you're at it, get all your financial skeletons out of the closet. Are you a big spender or a diligent saver? Do you have any debts, whether for credit cards, school loans, etc.? Do you want a joint bank account after you're married? The more you straighten out now, the better.

BUILDING A LASTING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP

Ah, engaged life. Fancy parties in your honor, a legitimate excuse to plunk down thousands for one dress. You never expected the downside: hissing at each other in bridal registry departments, screaming matches over the wedding guest list. The engagement period can be a minefield of hot topics that can trigger huge blowouts -- sometimes a seating plan is not just a seating plan.

"Planning the wedding is a trial run for your future marriage. The things you battle about now are clues to where you're going to have trouble in the future," says Tina B. Tessina, psychotherapist and author of True Partners: A Workbook for Building a Lasting Intimate Relationship. Here's what lies behind the most common prewedding blowouts -- and how to resolve them.

Family
"His family's guest list is getting longer and longer every day, and they're not even chipping in for the wedding."
Tessina warns that this particular argument is "a prototype for future financial dealings." Her advice: Be businesslike. Say to your beloved groom, "This is what your family's guest list will cost, this is what my family's guest list will cost. What can we do to limit the cost? Will your family chip in?"

Dr. Patrick Gannon is a licensed psychologist in private practice and the co-creator (along with his wife, Dr. Michelle Gannon, also a licensed psychologist) of Marriage Prep 101, a course designed for engaged couples. He suggests that there may be more here than meets the eye. "Always be on the lookout for conflicts like these to be about 'hidden issues.' Are either of you sensitive about issues of fairness or balance? Does one of you have a greater sense of obligation to your parents that the wedding be a certain way?"

HOW TO SET A WEDDING BUDGET. TOP FIVE SIMPLE STEP

1. List of guest.
It is best to know first the number of guest before choosing the venue. Make a list of guest you want to be with on your special day. In having certain number it is easier to find a venue for your reception. Make sure to find a venue who has a wedding package. In this case, they will have compliments and freebies for you wedding like the cocktails or the wedding car, etc.

2. Cash on hand segregation
The budget is all about proper accounting. Start with the details like wedding gown, invitation, flowers, photographer, food, venue. You have to decide what is your goal, whether you want a good food, spacious, accessible or something else. You can ask for a taste test to know if the food is good or observe when they have wedding in the venue. Having to witness an actual wedding will help you decide too.

3. Wedding flowers
Sometimes, brides are splurging on their wedding bouquet. Let the floral arrangement in charge of the reception to do your bouquets and pick the flowers that are in season. It will help you save on money and lesser problem to think of.

4. Check your credit
Since a wedding is expected to have higher cost take advantage of your credit card rewards. The more you spent the more points you earn. You may convert it to miles for your honeymoon or have some appliances for your new house.


5. Do the RSVP
Follow up your guest if they can coming on your wedding. Say no if they asked for a plus one guest. Be firm to all. Remember it is okay to say no and do some white lies like your parents and soon to be in laws invited many friends and relatives. It is your wedding, and you have the right. They will eventually understand. Mostly married friends will understand because they've been there and with the single friends will understand it later when their time comes. Lol!






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BEST CAKE AND TOPPERS ON YOUR WEDDING DAY

We have found some of the best wedding cakes and toppers that fit well on your Big Day.

1. Here is a cake that inspired by a Philippine culture. The hut and the cow. This is so cute.

2. A beautiful centerpiece. How romantic

3. Love is in the air. How about a hot air balloon concept.

4. A very simple wedding topper. This is just a printout and some string for the love banner. If you're in a tight budget this is one way to do so.

5.  A beautiful couple topper. This is a well handcrafted piece.  

6. This is a very classical topper and a unique way to celebrate your wedding. A 3 pieces cake. One for the groom and one for the bride. 

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WEDDING GOWN CLASSICAL DESIGN IDEAS

Are you looking for a wedding gown that is a classic design that will make you more beautiful and sophisticated? 

Here are some of the gowns that you might like to wear on your Big Day.

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HOW MUCH DO YOU REALLY KNOW ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS

Most of us think we know a lot about relationships and that what we believe is true. But do you really know as much as you think you do?

Here’s a fun way to find out. Take the following quiz.

The Love Doctor’s Relationship IQ Quiz

WHERE DO RELATIONSHIP MYTHS COME FROM

Many beliefs about love and relationships have been ingrained in you since your youth. You’ve picked up impressions and ideas from movies, television, and books. You’ve been influenced by your family life growing up, how your parents interacted, and by observing the ups and downs in your friends’ relationships.

And you’ve probably learned a thing or two about love firsthand. Your former marriage or long-term relationship, and its demise, will always be at the back of your mind—and you may still cringe when you recall those one or two relationships in your life that sizzled and then quickly soured.

You may have read self-help books, listened to relationship gurus, gathered advice columns, or replayed tips from popular daytime talk shows. You may have done everything possible to learn about relationships, but the problem is, most of the tips and advice that are out there and repeated as fact are, in actuality, firmly rooted in fiction.

WHY CHANGING YOUR BELIEFS IS SO IMPORTANT

Is hanging on to beliefs that aren’t supported by science really that bad?

In short, yes! Clearing out those dusty old cobwebs and misconceptions about relationships makes dating so much easier. By learning what relationship research tells us about how men and women relate, behave, and think, you can approach dating and relationships with fresh, unbiased knowledge.

This is important because when you stop buying into the myths, you’ll have more realistic expectations. You’ll be able to see potential partners for who they really are—rather than who you thought they were going to be. You’ll be less frustrated and more likely to find a partner who’s a “good fit” for you. And you can stop being swayed by what other people tell you romance is supposed to feel like, or how you’ve found it to be in your past relationships.

HOW TO RESET YOUR EXPECTATIONS IN MARRIAGE

FORGET EVERYTHING YOU THOUGHT you knew about dating, divorced singles, and post-divorce life. This chapter is all about how to change your beliefs. In this step, I’ll reveal the eight most surprising myths about dating, relationships, and the opposite sex from my long-term EYM study and other leading research studies on dating and divorce— information that will completely change how you view relationships from this moment on.

For example, did you know that at the beginning of a relationship, your brain makes it nearly impossible for you to see your partner’s faults (even though you’ve heard that first impressions are always right)? Or that men, not women, are more likely to fall in love with someone who doesn’t love them back? In this chapter, I’ll dispel and debunk relationship myths with science and facts you’ll be able to use whether you’re out in the dating world or in a new relationship. You’ll see that simply shedding your old beliefs—and your expectations about how a relationship should be—is the first step to finding that special someone and forming a healthy and long-lasting relationship.

IS YOUR MARRIAGE WORTH SAVING?

Why Even Try?

Without a doubt, your marriage is worth saving!

Though all marriages can’t be saved, divorce does not typically solve personal or relational dysfunctions. For couples with children, it is important to understand that research validates the fact that most children do not want their parents to divorce, in spite of their parents’ arguments and basic problems. In fact, one of the number one fears of children in the United States, ages 4 to 16, is the fear that their parents will divorce.1
Dr. Judith Wallerstein, a psychologist and one of the nation’s premier divorce researchers, conducted a 25-year research study following 131 children of divorce.

She states:
Twenty-five years after their parents’ divorce, children remembered loneliness, fear and terror! Adults like to believe that children are aware of their parents’ unhappiness, expect the divorce and are relieved when it happens. However, that is a myth; and what children actually conclude is if one parent can leave another, then they both could leave me.

IS YOUR MARRIAGE IN CRISIS?

A marriage crisis typically occurs when an unusual amount of stress or unresolved conflict causes the level of anxiety to become too intense for the couple to manage. As a result, anger, resentment, dissatisfaction, frustration and hopelessness take control of the relationship. The couple typically continues the negative interactions—or disengages completely from one another, and the relationship shuts down. I call this the boiling point or marital meltdown in the marriage. It is usually at this place in the crisis process that a couple calls seeking help from a counselor, minister, friend or family member. Some counselors define a marriage crisis as a marriage where one or both partners desire to end the marriage.

Every day, you’re faced with a broad variety of challenges and trials. Individuals and families are
constantly exposed to news about natural and man-made disasters such as domestic violence, terrorist
attacks, abuse, rape, workplace accidents, crashes, military conflicts and weather-related disasters.
According to statistics, there are approximately 36 million reported crimes and crime victims each
year in America. The emotional, physical and spiritual responses that follow a crisis are often more than most people can manage alone.

INDICATIONS YOU NEED HELP FOR YOU MARRIAGE

Input From Family and Friends

If your family or friends recognize that you have a problem that needs addressing, pay attention.
People outside your marriage can often spot a serious problem before you can. Family members
and friends often have intuitive hunches or become concerned about your relationship based on behaviors
or attitudes you may manifest. Listen carefully if someone says, “You guys need marriage counseling.”

Children’s Behavior
Another indicator involves your children. Their behavior can often provide a barometer of what is occurring inside a home. You and your spouse may believe that the current level of interaction and health in your marriage is okay and just the way it will be, but your children may sense that something is wrong and needs to change. Young children often react to marriage problems through abnormal behavior. They begin
to act out at school, around friends or even at home. The same is true of teens, who will often react to trouble at home by becoming involved in activities or with people that are out of character.

Teens typically attempt to deal with the stress of an unhealthy marriage in unhealthy ways. Teen behavior and attitudes often provide a means of medicating their pain.

WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENT TYPES OF MARRIAGE PROBLEMS?

Problems in marriages can range from minor to serious to crisis-level, with each demanding a different kind of help.

The following examples illustrate how wide-ranging marriage problems can be. It’s important to realize that help is available at all levels and can turn even a hopeless-looking situation around in a radical way.

Minor Problems: Joe and Mary aren’t communicating like they used to. They disagree often about how to discipline their kids, and they spend less time together. Finally, they recognize the need to refresh their marriage and attend a marriage seminar together at church. At home, they begin to find success implementing the tools they developed.

Serious Problems: George and Martha are either fighting or withdrawing, and George has threatened several times to leave. It becomes clear to both of them that their marriage will not survive without making it a priority to learn to relate in healthy ways. They seek out and find a Christian counselor; and after repeated visits, learn to break their destructive patterns.

HOW TO ASSESS YOUR MARRIAGE?

Every marriage experiences problems. No matter how long you have been married— whether one year or 40 years —you will have problems. Marital problems can be extremely intense and painful, and those hurts can cut deeply and last a very long time.

The pain caused by someone you care about as much as your spouse may be very difficult to deal with. Most of us have preconceived ideas about how our spouses should treat us. We expect mistreatment from other people, but not from our spouses. Just remember that as human beings, we often think, feel and behave in ways that are hurtful, even toward those we love. Flawed people treat each other in flawed ways; so no matter how much we care, we’ll sometimes hurt each other.

Your marriage isn’t doomed because you hurt one another, have difficulty communicating or have disagreements over important issues. Couples have been experiencing and solving problems on their own—beginning with Adam and Eve, and continuing to this day. The more experience and maturity a couple develops in a marriage, the more success gained in managing and solving problems.

MAKING YOUR HOME A PLACE FOR LEARNING

To focus on a project, your child must feel “safe” to dig into materials and really explore with his work. It is not necessary to make major changes in your household to make it a place where meaningful learning experiences can occur for your child, but there are questions for you to consider.

1. How can I provide an environment for learning?
Where is there enough space in my home for my child and me to work together? Will I be comfortable working on a 12-inch wooden chair alongside my child? Where will my child have a surface to write, draw, paint, and use materials like clay?

2. Where will I get materials for my child to use?
Will buying supplies for project work be expensive? What kinds of things do I need to collect? Will I need to go somewhere special to get the materials we will use?

3. How can I store materials for projects and other forms of meaningful learning?
Where will I keep paper, clay, and books about project topics? Where can ongoing work be stored so that it is safe from siblings, vacuum cleaners, or the dog? Where can materials be stored neatly and safely, but so that they are still accessible to my child?

WHAT IS A FIXED MARRIAGE?

There are many reasons why a person has participated in this act. In many countries, a child’s parent will agree to arrange their child’s marriage with a certain family when they become of age because they have a mutual relationship with each other and they want to keep their bonds for a lifetime. On the other hand, some people who have the interest living abroad think of fixed marriage as the easiest way out to get their papers done and leave the country.

So the big question is: To Do or Not To Do? No offense but I really think that it  is a deal arranging with what we call “Quid Pro Quo.” Simply as, I need something from you and you need something from me. When did marriage become an exchange of service or goods? Marriage is a very sacred sacrament and fixing it with the absence of mutual love  for each other is a different story.

I had a cousin who was a U.S. citizen and agreed to get married to a guy who had no residential papers, because she simply just can’t afford a luxurious lifestyle. She needed the money to continue on paying for her bills and other miscellaneous expenses. Though it was no strings attached, it’s kind of awkward to admit that she was providing service in exchange of goods. She was given a down payment just to agree on pursuing the arrangement ($15,000.00 it was). Then every 2 weeks she gets a portion of the guys paycheck as an agreement of getting the fixed marriage until 5 years when the term has completed. But the overall cost for my cousin is that she had to be binded with him for 5 years prior to filing for divorce. Then she’ll be free from him again.  Her fixed marriage has its own price. What will yours be? How far will you go to fulfill what you want or what you need? Is fixed marriage the only solution you have? There’s a saying, ” Where there’s a Will,there is a Way” and I don’t think that fixed marriage is the path to do it.

Tell us what you think? Will you take part on a fixed marriage or find your one true love by yourself to marry. 

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WHICH DO YOU PREFER MARRIAGE BEFORE LOVEMAKING OR INTERCOURSE BEFORE MARRIAGE?

If you are in a relationship or planning to get married, what do you prefer? 

Sexual Intercourse according to the bible is sacred, also marriage. 

Before we go further, let us know what does Sexual/lovemaking/intercourse means.

What is sex?

A lot of times people use the word “sex” when they mean having sexual intercourse. There’s actually a huge range of things that people do that don’t involve intercourse. Some things have a higher risk for pregnancy or infection, so it’s really important to understand the risks so you can decide if a certain activity is right for you, and if so, how to protect yourself. 

It is a way of making love to your partner. It can also be associated with lust.